tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35212546.post1779373847355751052..comments2023-10-17T07:54:36.469-04:00Comments on The Sticky Bean Preconception Journal: Tell Me You Love Me: Episode 08Kristenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03542962726270982824noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35212546.post-85531576908448996882007-10-29T12:37:00.000-04:002007-10-29T12:37:00.000-04:00"Are there some careers where it is a given that i..."Are there some careers where it is a given that it will be harder to balance work and family?"<BR/><BR/>I work in an industry where a LOT of travel is required. It is not impossible to be in this business and not travel, but it necessitates the individual have skills that are at least slightly disparate from what lead them into this line of work in the first place. Kind of a difficult thing. <BR/><BR/><BR/>"I don't have very many little kids around so whenever the niece or nephew are with us, we try to spend lots of time with them just to get that experience. Do you feel that having more face time with children before you become a parent is helpful?"<BR/><BR/>DH and I have spent a LOT of time with my niece (5) and nephew (2) over the last two years. They are a handful - especially if one of us is busy, leaving a 1:2 kid:adult ratio. I have to admit that it has been quite eye opening. Ironically though, it isn't actually as hard as I thought it would be... guess maybe I'm more of a cynic than I like to admit.Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07923049494756911105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35212546.post-58617952820492060052007-10-29T07:25:00.000-04:002007-10-29T07:25:00.000-04:00I think Palek is a conceited, non-empathic ass. I ...I think Palek is a conceited, non-empathic ass. I can't imagine many women putting up with that kind of behavior for very long, if at all. Sounds to me like they both have some growing up to do, especially him. Regardless of what happens with the pregnancy, I'd say this marriage is definitely in some whitewater with rocks approaching.<BR/><BR/>I also think sharing the news is good to do. Holding it in takes a lot more energy and then you might have mixed feelings about sharing anything if the pregnancy goes south.<BR/><BR/>I think the boss was out of line and set her company up for a possible discrimination suit later. I have hired pregnant women and accommodated their job functions as a result of their pregnancy, but never made statements like the one she made. Poor taste to say the least and would not make me want to invest anything further into that company.<BR/>Companies need to realize pregnancy is part of life and regardless of whether they hire a male or female - both are entitled to family medical leave as a result of a birth/adoption. I think any career that requires overnight traveling would be harder to accommodate for family life.<BR/><BR/>I do think we bring our baggage with us when we raise our own kids and as much as we want to do it better than our parents did (and in most cases you will), some of what you do will be similar. After all, they must have did something right! What is comforting to a degree is that most kids will grow up fairly normal in spite of any failures we present - and yes, we will fail in some areas as parents. It’s all part of learning and growing. I've yet to meet a perfect parent or a perfect family. My Aunt Nellie told me a long time ago, if you stood under any family tree and gave it a good shake, you'd be waist deep in nuts. I think she is right!<BR/><BR/>While I think being around kids is helpful before having them, nothing prepares you for what it is like to have them full time, day in and day out, as just "having them". Each and every pregnancy/child is different then the one before it. In fact, you begin to wonder if two children who came from the same set of parents are really related after awhile. Each tests your patience and stamina in different ways, if not your sanity at times too. <BR/><BR/>Sorry that this comment is almost as long as your post but you brought up some intriguing questions I felt inspired on a Monday morning to answer - for what it is worth. Hope your week goes well.Doughnuthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00100398955132921465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35212546.post-14155196318971510352007-10-29T03:39:00.000-04:002007-10-29T03:39:00.000-04:00What complicated lives those characters lead.I did...What complicated lives those characters lead.<BR/><BR/>I didn't tell at all about my pregnancy. I sure as hell wanted to, but the 'what if's' always kept me back.<BR/><BR/>JGeohdehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09084396088622931768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35212546.post-80863606663079287462007-10-28T23:29:00.000-04:002007-10-28T23:29:00.000-04:00I literally gasped every time she told someone. I ...I literally gasped every time she told someone. I think they are setting up for a loss. Or I just expect all pregnancie to end in loss. Either way, I can't picture this pregnancy going the whole way through.Dr. Grumbleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09448780702110352118noreply@blogger.com